05.09
A new frontier, five or six years ago it was just starting to become partially acceptable to even use the Internet as a way to find people to meet in real life. Now it seems there is a new trend. I have been involved in a few and know many friends who have as well. I feel like we all have them now days on some level, especially my friends that I met through Twitter. Not sure why Twitter tends to draw the type of people who are interested in Cyber Love, but it is what it is and it happens ALL the time. We all desire friendship, we also probably all desire love and it’s pretty obvious that most want sex or at least some form of it. The problem is that people don’t communicate to the people they meet exactly what they are interested in having with others. I understand that you don’t always know right away when you meet somebody what you might want from them. But if you are in the situation where a real life physical meeting could never be possible and you don’t disclose that information early on then I have a real problem with you. A real problem.
Unfortunately I also think there are far too many people who don’t put enough thought into it. Don’t understand how to respect others, and simply press that all too convenient ‘delete’ button when things don’t go their way. Because the main difference between a real life relationship and an Internet only relationship is one thing, and it’s right there in the name. REAL, one is real and one on many levels isn’t. Don’t get me wrong, the feelings people put into Internet only relationships are VERY real. But I am pretty sure people would not get hurt so badly if things were discussed early on.
Look we all know the reasons why somebody would purposefully or accidentally get into an Internet only relationship. Maybe you are a very romantic person but for some medical, physical, or emotional reason, sex is not an option. Maybe you are married and just want to play with real people when you masturbate instead of look at porn. Or maybe it’s what I find to be the most popular reason. You want to experience a romantic relationship with somebody, but through a virtual version of yourself. You know, it’s YOU minus all the problems. Minus the things that would make nobody want to touch you or get involved with you.
So now you are thinking to yourself, “great job Skunk you have outlined a problem we all hate, now what?” Well I am certainly not going to just complain about it and not propose some solutions. First of all you should find yourself the right site. For instance, here is what twitter is “supposed” to be for:
“Instant updates from your friends, industry experts, favorite celebrities, and what’s happening around the world.”
I didn’t hear love or sex or anything about a relationship in there. You could give it a shot if you want, but believe me there is a site built specifically for the type of relationship you are after. Have you heard of google? Might be a good place to type in what you are looking for and go from there. Next you should prepare yourself for how you will react when you meet somebody you might want more from and most importantly how you will react when you realize that they don’t want the same. Granted, a situation like that should not arise if you communicate well up front and talk about each others feelings often. Last but not least is respect. There is a real person over there and I know it sounds crazy but maybe you should treat them the way you would want to be treated. No really. The way YOU would want to be treated.
Be safe out there boys and girls, cyber sex is dangerous too.











